Ex-Christian: Gone for good, or good to be gone?
Greg Richter, Religion News Service
February 09, 2011

Ex-Christian: Gone for good, or good to be gone?

Ex-Christian: Gone for good, or good to be gone?
Greg Richter, Religion News Service
February 09, 2011

Drew Dyck didn’t lose the Christian faith of his childhood when

he became an adult, but he noticed that lots of others did.

Dyck, an editor of online publications for Christianity

Today, talked to some of those who’ve left the faith for his recent book, Generation

Ex-Christian: Why Young Adults Are Leaving the Faith … and How to Bring Them


(Some answers have been edited for length and clarity.)

Q: What prompted you to write about ex-Christians?

A: My friends began leaving the faith. The first was a

friend from high school. We had grown up in the church; both of our fathers

were pastors. A few years after high school he informed me that he was no longer

a Christian. That got my attention. As I moved through my 20s, I witnessed

other friends “de-convert.” I realized that these experiences were not unique.

Q: Are a lot of young people really leaving the faith? Won’t

they just come back when they’re older?

A: The answer to the first question is “yes.” In the 2009

American Religious Identification Survey, 18- to 29-year-olds were found to be the

least religious age group: 22 percent claimed “no religion.” That was up 11

percent from 1990.

Whether or not they will return is where the scholarly

consensus breaks down. Some view the exodus from the church as a hiatus, a

matter of young Americans “slapping the snooze” on Sunday mornings. They see the

trend as a reversible life-phase phenomenon. I’m not so sure.

Q: What’s the main reason they give for leaving?

A: Most cited intellectual doubts, but there’s often more to

the story. One young woman had attended a prominent Christian college, where she’d

suffered a mental breakdown after feeling ostracized by the community and

betrayed by Christian friends. But it was only in subsequent years that she

constructed her elaborate system of doubt. Her intellectual doubts may have

prevented her from returning to

Christianity, but they were almost certainly not the reason

she left in the first place.

My challenge was to watch for those underlying experiences

that often push people from the faith. It sounds more credible to say you left

on intellectual grounds. But more often, the head follows the heart.

Q: What interesting things did you learn during the


A: I encountered some surprising signs of spiritual life. In

the interviews, I asked the ex-Christians whether they ever still prayed. Most

still did pray. They were angry, conflicted prayers, but beautiful in their

honesty and desperation: “God, where are you? Can you hear me? Do you exist? Do

you even care about me? I miss you.”

Q: You have some interesting categories of unbelievers in

your book: Can you explain what these terms mean?

A: No two “leavers” are exactly the same, but some patterns

did emerge.

Postmodern leavers reject Christianity because of its

exclusive truth claims and moral absolutes. For them, Christian faith is just

too narrow.

“Recoilers” leave because they were hurt in the church. They

suffered some form of abuse at the hands of someone they saw as a spiritual

authority. God was guilty by association.

“Modernists” completely reject supernatural claims. God is a

delusion. Any truth beyond science is dismissed as superstition.

“Neo-pagans” refers to those who left for earth-based

religions such as Wicca. Not all actually cast spells or participate in pagan

rituals, but they deny a transcendent God, and see earth as the locus of true spirituality.

“Spiritual Rebels” flee the faith to indulge in behavior

that conflicted with their faith. They also value autonomy and don’t want anyone

— especially a superintending deity — telling them what to do.

“Drifters” do not suffer intellectual crises or consciously

leave the faith; they simply drift away. Over time God becomes less and less important

until one day he’s no longer part of their lives.

Q: Has the church played a role in causing this trend? If

so, how can it stem the tide?

A: Over the past couple of decades, business thinking has

affected the way many churches minister to youth. The goal has become

attracting large numbers of kids and keeping them entertained. Church

researcher Ed Stetzer describes most youth groups as “holding tanks with pizza.”

There’s nothing wrong with video games and pizza, but they’re

tragic replacements for discipleship and catechism. Many young people have been

exposed to a superficial form of Christianity that effectively inoculates them

against authentic faith.

Q: What role does contemporary American culture play?

A: A lot of Christians fear the corrupting influence of “the

world,” but when it comes to the spiritual plights of young people, what

happens inside the church matters most. Even for those lured away by

alternative spiritualities such as Wicca, their “de-conversions” were

precipitated by what happened inside rather than outside the church. In other

words, it was more push than pull.

Q: You’re a part of the generation you’re writing about. What

is different about those such as yourself who didn’t leave?

A: Young people who have meaningful relationships with older

Christians are much more likely to retain their faith into adulthood. I had

those connections, and have no doubt they were instrumental in my life. I also

sought out the intellectual resources to understand and defend my faith. But I

don’t give myself too much credit.

The difference between me and my friends who I now describe

as “ex-Christians” may be a matter of degree, rather than kind. We all have the

tendency to stray. But God, in his mercy, keeps drawing me back.

(EDITOR’S NOTE — Richter writes for The Birmingham

News in Birmingham, Ala.)

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