Focal Passages: Ruth 1:1-2:23
Leo Tolstoy is quoted as saying, “All happy families resemble each other, but each unhappy family is unhappy in it’s own way.” In my studies I have seen that many believe that well over 60 percent of American families can be called dysfunctional. This is the cause behind the violence, broken relationships and divorces in our country.
I believe that in actuality, we are looking at 100 percent. Why? Because all families are made up of dysfunctional people. You and I are dysfunctional because we have the sin nature. This sin nature causes us to put ourselves first over others. We put our needs over anyone else’s needs.
God wants us to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Lev. 19:18; Matt. 22:39). God wants us to understand that love is not an emotion; it is an action verb. It is the words and actions we use with each other.
So, how do we build a better relationship? We can start by seeking to build better communication. Don’t be critical; be constructive. Is what you are about to say necessary? Will it build up or bust up? Today, seek to speak words that improve those around you.
Another way is to refuse to hold a grudge. Has someone done something against you? Welcome to this world we live in. What was done is not as important as how we dealt with it. I realized one day that I had done something horrible to One who loved me so much. But, to my delight He didn’t hold it against me. He forgave me. Of course you know I am talking about God. No one could ever do as much to me as I have done to God. When I am tempted to hold a grudge now, I think about how God has dealt with me.
Finally, we show our commitment to our loved ones by spending time with them. To say we love them is not as important as showing them that we love them. And, as has been said, love is spelled T-I-M-E.
Build a better relationship by communicating, forgiving and spending time.