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Church should help raise children
Dianna L. Cagle, BR Assistant Managing Editor
December 01, 2010
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Church should help raise children

Church should help raise children
Dianna L. Cagle, BR Assistant Managing Editor
December 01, 2010

What’s your idea of the

perfect family? Do you think back to one of your favorite childhood television

shows?

When Merrie Johnson, senior

consultant in evangelization at the Baptist State Convention of North Carolina,

was leading a break out session Nov. 9, several answers were offered, including

“Leave it to Beaver” and “The Brady Bunch.”

But that’s not reality,

Johnson said.

Teaching from Parenting

Beyond Your Capacity by Reggie Joiner and Carey Nieuwhof, Johnson hopes parents

and grandparents who are raising children will realize that they should not

“feel like we’re less than” because they haven’t reached their ideal family.

A child’s relationship with

Christ should matter the most, she said.

BR photo by Dianna L. Cagle

Merrie Johnson, senior consultant in evangelization at the Baptist State Convention, urges parents to connect with their children.

“They’re searching so hard

for security,” Johnson said.

What better place than in

the arms of the Father?

“I do want you to know that

you are loved,” Johnson said parents should tell their children. “They think

everything is conditional (and) worry will there be a time (the parents) will

not fight for them.”

Johnson said parents should

rely on Christ, the other spouse and the church to help with their children. As

a single mother with two sons, Johnson knows she can’t do it alone. Through the

years, she continues to stress to her children that she will be around for

them.

Johnson found a mentor in

her church for her boys. He agreed to meet them 15-20 minutes before church

every week. She spends summers leading youth camps at Caswell, North Carolina’s

Baptist assembly on Oak Island. The No. 1 thing youth say they hear from

parents: “I told you you’d never measure up.”

Johnson said, “They are

trying everywhere they can to get approval.”

Parents should make their

relationship with God a high priority, not getting their children to follow the

rules.

“I can’t give what I don’t

have,” said Johnson.

Spending time with God will

show in how you treat your children, she explained.

More churches need to invest

time in parents, teaching them how to disciple and teaching them the basics of

faith. Johnson said adults were more scared than the teenagers to tackle the

topic of apologetics this summer at camp.

“Somewhere along the way

parents have not gotten the foundation,” she said.

“The church should be a safe

place. The church is full of broken people.”

Johnson encouraged parents

to interact with their children, not just be content to be in the same room.

She shared some ways parents

break their child’s trust:

  • Discipline in anger.
  • Use words that communicate

    rejection.

  • Ignore their voices.
  • Don’t try to understand

    who they really are.

  • Break their core promises.
  • Take things too

    personally.