Doing jobs important for family members
Dianna L. Cagle, BR Assistant Managing Editor
November 17, 2010

Doing jobs important for family members

Doing jobs important for family members
Dianna L. Cagle, BR Assistant Managing Editor
November 17, 2010

Living in a glass house,

pastors face a lot of pressure.

“It’s absolutely essential

if we are to do well, to finish well, to have a healthy marriage,” said Danny

Akin, president of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest.

Akin, who has been married

32 years, said his wedding day has been the second best day in his life —

second to his salvation experience at 18.

BR photo by Dianna L. Cagle

Danny Akin, president of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, delivers a sermon about pastors and their families as part of the annual Pastor’s Conference.

“(It’s) important to have

lady who will wrap (her arms around you),” Akin said Nov. 8 during the annual

Pastor’s Conference. “(It) makes a huge difference when those difficult times


Pastors face demands on

their time from their family and their church.

Using Col. 3:18-21, Akin

stressed the importance of the job descriptions given in scripture.

Husbands, wives, children

and fathers each have job descriptions.

Yielding her will, a wife

honors Christ by submitting to her husband, Akin said. This submission does not

mean inferiority in any way.

Husbands are commanded to

love their wives. Akin pointed out that the command to husbands involves two

imperatives, indicating a continuous action.

“The love he is talking

about there is a decision, a volitional act of your will,” Akin said. “You love

her even when she’s not lovely.”

Akin told the pastors to look

at the cross and “see how He loved you.

“He, in amazing grace, loved


The love here, Akin said, is

one of sacrifice.

The imperatives also

included a warning against husbands being harsh or bitter toward their wives.

“Bitterness is a cancer to

the soul,” Akin said. “Bitterness will eat up a man of God.”

Nothing exists in ministry

that is more dangerous than bitterness, Akin said.

“It eats you up,” he said,

but doesn’t bother the other person. “Bitterness is a cancer of the soul.”

Colossians also tells

children to obey their parents “in everything,” he said.

“I believe we are to obey

comprehensively not absolutely,” in that children and pastors should not to do

anything illegal, immoral, unethical or unbiblical.

“We’re not CEOs or

autocrats,” Akin said. “We’re shepherds.”

But Akin said if children

have to choose between their parents and God, parents should lose.

Colossians also shares an

imperative for fathers to encourage their children.

“We as men are called to

lead our houses,” Akin said. “They do listen to what you say and they care what

you think about them.”

Fathers should build their

children up.

At the end of Akin’s sermon,

he turned to talk of the Great Commission Task Force report.

“At its soul is getting of

the gospel to the nations,” Akin said.

Pastors are the key to a

resurgence of the Great Commission.

“It’s all on you,” Akin

said. “I’m passing the baton.”

The back of the report

contains challenges. One section was on families.

Akin shared seven of the nine

challenges with pastors:

  1. Emphasize biblical gender

    roles with fathers taking the lead for spiritual warfare of their families.

  2. Build gospel-saturated


  3. Develop strategies for

    sharing the gospel.

  4. Adopt a different

    unreached people group; pray for a month.

  5. Adopt a different church

    plant a month or year, praying and supporting.

  6. Spend family vacation

    participating in a mission trip.

  7. Consider setting up a

    missions savings account for child or grandchild.

To learn more about the

family as well as other challenges from the Great Commission Task Force report

visit www.pray4gcr.com/reports/.